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June 07, 2003

Our Story about the Wedding Day

Unfortunately after the ceremony our memories are a little hazy, but here are the things that we remember:

We lined up with our parents for the receiving line in the Main Hall. It was so wonderful to finally see and speak with everyone that had come to celebrate with us. We got to see friends and family members that had come from as far away as Europe to share the day with us, and in some cases friends that we had not seen in several years. At least one relative who will remain nameless came through the line twice because he was too choked up to speak the first time around.

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Claire's Story about her Wedding Day

The very first thing that I remember from the morning of the wedding was my dear friend Liz saying that the alarm hadn't gone off and we'd overslept- just what every bride wants to hear on her wedding day. The five of us who had spent the night together (Jill, Meg, Liz, Nicole, and me) rushed around to get ready, grab a bite to eat, and get to the salon to get our hair done. We raced over the Mt. Hope Bridge and were only about 10 minutes late for our appointments at the salon, which was no small feat for 5 women sharing one bathroom. The next mini-crisis came when we arrived at the hair salon to find that there was only one person to do everyone's hair (that's one bride, five bridesmaids, my Mom and Greg's Mom). We made the most of our time by painting our nails while we waited. From the salon, we headed to get some lunch at a nearby bagel shop. It was wonderful to relax a little with the bridesmaids and our Moms at the bagel shop. We sat around and had some laughs. If I hadn't been wearing a veil and tiara, it could have been any other day!

The sky was getting pretty dark at this point and the wind was picking up, so I had a feeling that the ceremony was going to have to be moved outside. I was a little disappointed, as the grounds of Glen Manor are beautiful when everything is in bloom. However, the one piece of wedding day advice I really tried to take to heart was to not let any minor glitches upset the day and to keep some perspective on why this whole day was taking place. I knew that rain or shine, I was still going to end the day married to a wonderful man, and after I thought about that a little, the rain didn't seem to matter.

We picked up a few things at the Marriot and then headed to Glen Manor. I was a little panicked at this point because we were running behind schedule and arrived at Glen Manor just as the groomsmen were scheduled to arrive. Luckily the groomsmen were running late too and weren't there either. I ran upstairs with my dress and set up camp in the bridesmaids' dressing room. We had a long narrow room with a large table, bathroom, and windows facing the river. It's a good thing we had such a large room, as one bride, five bridesmaids, two mothers, and a ceremony reader take up lots of room with make-up, dresses, and industrial strength garment steamers. It was still too early to get ready but I was very antsy, so Sandra (bridesmaid and one of Greg's sister) located a radio and got the music going. I danced around while my responsible bridesmaid, Jennifer (also Greg's sister) began steaming the bridesmaids dresses. (You thought I was kidding about the industrial strength garment steamer?) My sister and Maid of Honor, Jill, made sure that I stayed nice and calm. We had a few minutes to just chat, look out at the river, and discuss how insane it was that I was getting married . Eventually it was time to get ready and Liz (my friend from college, who performed a reading during the ceremony) applied my make-up while the other bridesmaids got ready. Once I was in my slip, Meg (also a friend from college)  pinned a penny that Greg's Mom had given to me for good luck to my slip- it had a blue crochet covering, so technically it was something new and blue. Now came the very delicate process of getting the bride into the dress. Luckily, Nicole (my roommate from high-school) is a seasoned bridesmaid pro and managed to get me into the dress without disturbing my hair and/ or make-up. I was ready to go!

Now that I was dressed a few people stopped in to see me, including my five year old cousin Allison, who thought I looked "just like a princess". My Mom had been doing pretty well up till this point but when my grandmothers stopped in to see "Claire Coffey for the last time", she lost it. The bridesmaids decided that we needed some more music to lighten the situation, so in my final minutes as Claire Coffey I danced around to The Fugees "Killing Me Softly" with all of my best friends.

Finally, we got the go ahead that it was time to start the ceremony. As the bridesmaids lined up in the hallway, my Dad and I stood on the stairs and listened to the harp and flute music. Once the bridesmaids were in the ballroom and my song began, Dad and I started our walk down the hallway towards the ballroom. I could see Greg from the very end of the hallway, but he wasn't looking at me. As my Dad and I entered the ballroom, Greg looked up and I could see the tears in his eyes. In the four years I've known Greg, I had never seen him even get choked up. My Dad presented me to the officiate and as I stepped forward to begin the ceremony, I leaned over to give Greg a kiss. It was just a reflex- for the last four years, when I see Greg for the first time I give him a kiss. It startled me when he jumped away from me like I had cooties, but everyone giggled and it broke the tension.

Once the ceremony started, I remember trying not to laugh, trying not to cry, and most of all, being so happy!  See Claire's Wedding Photos.

Greg's Story about the Wedding Day

Get some popcorn and a large soda.  This is about as long as a feature film.  I sat down and started typing, typed some more, got something to eat, and then typed some more.  I hope you enjoy my recollection of the days events.  The names have not been changed to protect the guilty.

The Morning
My wedding day started about 5:30 in the morning.  I was woken by a groomsman who was snoring (very loudly) in the other bed in my hotel room.  After telling him to roll over several times, I knew it was a lost cause.  I was up and I was not going to be able to go back to sleep with all the days events weighing on my mind.  I decided to go downstairs to the hotel lobby to get a cup of coffee and let my groomsman sleep.

I was anxious to go downstairs and check the weather report for the day on the TV.  The day before the weather had been perfect for an outdoor ceremony but it was not supposed to last for Saturday.  As I watched the local news on the television in the hotel lobby, my heart sank as they forecasted the rain to start around 4 pm in the afternoon.  I will give you two guesses about when our ceremony was scheduled to start but you probably only need one.  Even though Claire and I would have loved to have our ceremony outside in the garden and the water in the background, I was determined not to let the weather ruin my day.

As I sat in the hotel lobby, I could only think about how excited I was to get married and how I couldn't believe I was not nervous.  Chris Ransom (groomsmen) then walked down still in the clothes that he'd worn the night before.  In his defense, he was planning to drive back to Boston on Friday night after the rehearsal dinner and then come back down on Saturday for the wedding.  He wanted to know what I was doing up so early and I also wondered the same of him.  Chris was going back to Boston with Dean (groomsman) to pick up Ian (college friend/teammate of ours) who he had already promised a ride down to the wedding.  The only thing I could think of was... I hope he makes it back in time for the wedding.  But then I had to remind myself that Chris was the only groomsman to make it to the rehearsal on-time.  This made me feel a lot better about him making a run up to Boston.

After another coffee, I was greeted by my cousin Gordon and his little son Marcus.  Marcus is a year old and Gordon brought him down to the lobby so he wouldn't wake up his mother (Sheri) and sister (Alexandra).  It was very nice to have some company and play with little Marcus.  The last time I saw him he couldn't even sit up by himself and now he was walking.  He is such a cute kid.  Gordon asked if I was ready for the big day and I answered with "We've been planning this day for the last 5 months, of course I am ready."  After some play time with Marcus, I decided it was time to go up to the room and see if I could go back to sleep.  I had a feeling it was going to be a long day.  Anyone who knows me knows that even regular days I need a nap.

After laying in bed for a little bit, I again knew it was a lost cause.  There were just too many things going through my mind.  I got up (for the second time), showered, and officially got my day underway.  After getting ready, I decided to get paper and a big bottle of water from the 7-eleven down the road.  This was not such a bad idea after all the adult beverages the night before with the wedding party.  Pulling into the hotel parking lot, I could see my immediate family having breakfast in the hotel and decided to join them.  It was very nice to spend some quiet time with them before the days events got into full swing.

I also ran into several other relatives while I was in the breakfast area.  I am very fortunate that all of my extended family is very close.  Every one of my Aunts, Uncles, and cousins (with the exception of one) made the journey to Newport for our wedding.  Some came from as far away as London, England.  Not many people are as lucky as I am.  There was one conversation that I remember having that morning with my cousin Jon.  I remember his wedding and him getting a little emotional.  Jon told me it was ok to get emotional (one or two tears) but it was not acceptable to cry.  I would remember his advice but more on that later.

Lunch
I would spend the next couple of hours reading the paper in my room (very exciting) and checking the hourly forecast on-line.  At noon, my groomsmen started to meet me in the room and we waited for Chris to return from Boston with Ian and Dean.  They eventually made it (to my relief) and we headed off to Newport Creamery for lunch.  After ordering a big burger and fries, I wonder if this was going to sit well in my stomach.  Too late now.  Up until this point, this day did not feel anymore special than any other day.  This could have been somebody else's wedding day was they way I felt.  It wasn't until I looked at my watch and told myself that I was getting married in three hours that it started to hit me.  Now, I was starting to get a little nervous.

Getting Ready at the Glen Manor House
After lunch (around 2:00 pm), it was time to head to the Glen Manor House to get ready.  It was starting to drizzle at this point and all hope of having the ceremony outside was gone.  When we arrived at the Glen, the place was hopping.  I saw Joanne, our wedding planner, putting some of the flowers arrangements (which her mother did for us with the exception of the bouquets) around the Glen.  Staff were running around setting up chairs and making deliveries.  It was quite a sight and I couldn't get over how beautiful everything was despite the rain.  Katie (The Glen coordinator who organized the ceremony) directed us up to our dressing room.  We walked up the stairs with one of the groomsmen running point to make sure I did not see Claire, her dress, or even worse Claire in her dress.  Our dressing room was right across the hall from hers and it was hard for me to believe that I was going to marry the girl in the room across the hall in about an hour and a half.

The first incident while getting dressed was with Dean's vest.  One of his vest buttons popped off.  Luckily, I had an emergency sewing kit in my toiletries bag.  Anyone who knows me, knows that I like to be prepared for anything and everything.  My father is the one I can thank for this he would always tell me to keep a little hotel sewing kit in my toiletries bag and to have a handkerchief.  It was a proud moment when he was there and I had the sewing kit. 

The next incident and comic relief (funny after the incident was solved) would be supplied by Brian Coyle.  As Brian dressed in the middle of the room, he turns to everyone and says, "Hey guys... Why does my shirt look different than all of yours?".  Everyone was laughing except for me.  All I could think was... "What are we going to do now?  There was a Tux shop across from the hotel."  Then some yelled out, "You have it on inside out." and more laughter ensued and I sighed with relief.  Brian checked his shirt and sure enough... it WASN'T inside out.  The tux shop had sent him with the wrong style shirt.  But my father was prepared, just as he had preached over and over to me growing up.  Emergency sewing kits, handkerchiefs, and tuxedo shirts???...  Sure enough, he had an extra tux shirt and it was almost the exact style as the ones we rented and it fit Brian.  Way to go Dad!

After getting ready, we headed downstairs to look around and get out of the little room.  Of course, the groom gets the smaller room to get ready in but at least it had it's own bathroom.  We got our new instructions from Frank (the officiant) on how the ceremony was going to work inside and our boutonnières from Katie.  It was now 3:00 and the guests would be arriving soon. 

So, I headed back upstairs to try to relax until it was game time.  For awhile it was just me in the room we got ready in, and now I was starting to get nervous.  I don't know what I was nervous about.  I guess anxious is probably a better word.  From the room I could look out and see guests arrive below just before they entered the Glen.  Eventually, my father came up and we made small talk.  Then Frank came up to go over some last minute details and to get my father to sign the wedding certificate as a witness.  Bill also came in, after seeing Claire, and signed the certificate as the second witness.  Eventually it was just the three (my father, Claire's father, and me) of us and we waited until Katie would come to get us when it was time to start.

The Ceremony
As Jacob (my best man), Frank, and I waited outside to enter the ballroom, I really started to get anxious.  Jacob tried making small talk and joking with me but truthfully I can't remember one thing he said to me (nothing personal, Jacob).  I could feel my heart beating faster and the temperature rising.  All I could think about was seeing Claire walk down that aisle.  It had been a long time since I had been this anxious about anything.

Frank looked at me and said it was time to go in and take our places.  As the harp and flute started to play the processional music "Canon in D", I could feel all my emotions getting stronger and stronger with each bar of music played.  Once I saw my sisters walking down the aisle, I could feel my bottom lip starting to quiver.  Now, all I could hear in my head was my cousin Jon from earlier in the day..."It's OK to get a little emotional but no crying."  I kept repeating this to myself over and over to try to hold it together.

Finally, it came time for Claire to walk down the aisle.  Just before this happened Frank threw a curve ball at me.  He whispered to me that I had two choices.  I could look down the aisle, through the ballroom doors, and down the hall and watch her walk all the way down to the ballroom from the stairs or I could wait until she got to the ballroom doors at the beginning of the aisle. I was so anxious I answered his question with "Yes."  He smiled and gave a quick laugh and told me I had to pick one or the other.  I decided to wait until she got to the beginning of the aisle.  Heck, I had already waited most of the day, what was a few more minutes.  Frank instructed me to look at him or the bridesmaids and he would tell me when to turn and look down the aisle.  As I waited for him to give me the OK, I caught a glimpse of my sister, Sandra, who told me to take a deep breath.

I always hear people on TV talk about when they first saw their Bride in her wedding gown.  Before the wedding, I thought to myself that must be a nice feeling but didn't quite understand what the big deal was about not seeing the Bride before the ceremony.  I am realistic about most things and thought it would be great to take pictures before ceremony and get it out of the way.  However, Claire insisted on waiting and she was the Bride.  What the Bride wants she gets.  When I turned and saw Claire in her dress, I knew what everyone on TV was talking about.  I was very glad that she had insisted on me not seeing her until the ceremony.  Just writing about it I still get chills up my spine.  She was the most beautiful thing I had ever seen.

Truthfully, most of the ceremony is a blur.  So, I will wrap up with some random things I remember from the ceremony.

As I went to take Claire's hand from Bill, she leaned over to kiss me and I had to back away.  We were not to that point in the ceremony.

I didn't know what to do with my hands while I was standing up there.  Behind my back or down at my side.

I couldn't look at Claire's eyes for too long or I would feel my eyes start to well.  So, I had to look at her lips the whole time.  I remember thinking to myself... "There is no way you are going to be able to just stare at her lips for 30 min."

I was glad I had a handkerchief to give to Claire to wipe her tears.

I didn't know my right from my left hand and which one the ring should go on.  I had practiced putting the ring on her hand but never getting the ring put on mine.  When it came time to present my hand, I put out the wrong one.  Even after Frank told me my left hand, I just turned my right hand over.  Finally, Claire just grabbed my left hand.

After we were married and we turned to walk down the aisle, I wanted to bolt down the aisle with Claire by my side.  I have no idea why that was but Frank told us before at the rehearsal it always happens.  Frank stopped us from doing this and whispered to me, "Greg, what's the hurry?  Are you anxious to get to the bar or something."

These were the days events that I remember from our wedding day up until the end of the ceremony.  I will cherish them for the rest of my life and hope you enjoyed reading them. See Greg's Wedding Pictures.

June 06, 2003

The Rehearsal and Rehearsal Dinner

By the looks of things at the rehearsal, it looked as if the weather was going to be perfect.  The sun was out and the flowers smelled great.  We rehearsed the ceremony outside once all of the wedding party arrived. 

Lee and Anna (parents of the groom) drove up from Long Island that morning and arrived on time.  Candy (mother of the bride) and Claire made it on time.  Meg driving down from southern Mass and Chris driving from Boston also manage to get to the Glen when they were supposed to.   If you asked any of the grooms men who would show up on time, Chris would have been the long shot.  At 2:00, the count stood at: 1 of 2 required persons (no groom), 3 of 4 parents, 1 of 5 bridesmaids (no maid of honor), and 1 of 5 groomsmen (no best man).  Everyone else was late. Things were getting off to a great start.

Greg and Bill (father of the bride) were late getting back from picking up tux adjustments.  Jason was late due to flight arrangements.  In his defense, he had no control over the airlines.  The car carrying Jennifer, Sandra, and Jill coming from Boston had to make a non-scheduled stop to pick up Liz.  Liz's car broke down on the way to Newport and thankfully they were able to pick her up.  So, I guess that means that car was off the hook for being late.  Nicole was late (no excuses... just late).  But to nobody's surprise, Jacob (best man) got lost and had Dean with him and was the last to arrive.  It would be one thing to say he got lost coming from New York but he was already in Newport at Navy Base.  It took him 1 hour to go 5 miles.  However, at least he made it.  Brian got 'stuck in traffic' (we've all heard that one before) leaving NYC and didn't get to Newport until 3:30 pm.   

After the rehearsal, it was time to check into hotels and get ready for the rehearsal dinner at Aidan's in Newport.  Aidan's is an Irish pub in downtown Newport that was a favorite place for Greg and Claire.  After Aidan's, the wedding party went to the Garden in downtown Newport to hang out and catch up.  We shot some pool, the bridesmaids behaved themselves, the groomsmen did shots (thanks Jason), Chris lost his car, and Dean got a bruise on his forehead.  Good times... good times... See the Rehearsal Pictures.